I once had a co-worker that I despised for no good reason. I just didn’t like him. I was reading A Course in Miracles back then (does anyone read that book anymore?), and became inspired to try to rid myself of the hatred I felt toward this person for rubbing me the wrong way.
So, as the book recommended, and even though I am not really a Christian, everytime I saw him in the hall or he passed my office or when I would hear his name, I said in my inside voice: "The Christ in me says hello to the Christ in you."
Around the same time (early 1990s) my first love dumped this guy he was dating to go out with me. The dumped guy would give me crazy mean looks when I ran into him, even though I’d never spoken a word to him before. We were both at an Everything But The Girl concert at Tipitina’s in New Orleans when I started saying "The Christ in me says hello to the Christ in you" to him mentally every time I saw him.
Earlier this year, I started tuning into The View. Now Elisabeth Hasselbeck is clearly TV’s most annoying, frustrating, aggravating personality. I would feel so angry when she would speak, and she would drive me nuts.
"The Christ in me says hello to the Christ in you."
One day, I ran into the guy at work and we actually had a good conversation in which he told me he had been struggling with cancer. His wife stopped by the next week and was just lovely and they invited me to dinner. I don’t know if it was my relentless application of "The Christ in me says hello to the Christ in you," but something changed. I was compassionate towards him, and by the time he died, I was really, really attached to him. He was a bright spot in my day.
When my mother passed away 11 years ago, the guy from the Everything But The Girl concert sent me the sweetest condolence card I’d ever received and we became best friends.
Fast forward to the new Rosie-fied version of The View and I have to say my heart melts everytime I see and hear Elisabeth Hasselbeck. I no doubt think she is still a Rebublican with firm beliefs far from my own, but now, perhaps after spending time with Rosie and her clan, she is so much less polarizing. She still has her opinions, but now she seems so much softer. It’s like her humanity has awoken and her heart has opened. Or maybe it was mine that opened.
I don’t know if she changed, or if I changed by repeating "The Christ in me says hello to the Christ in you" everytime she came on screen, but I think this is the best example of a Christmas story. A Course in Miracles, which I don’t really read anymore but from which I could still probably recite portions from memory, says "The holiest spot on Earth is where an old hatred become a present love."
I couldn’t agree more.
This Christmas, and everyday, "The Christ in me says a big fat honking wonderful hello to the Christ in you."
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